Master Mom: Sholeh Fabbri, Executive Producer Entertainment Tonight Canada
We had the pleasure of sitting down with Master Mom Sholeh Fabbri – she is an inspiring force of nature. She is exec producer for Canada’s most popular entertainment show, runs a successful Arbonne business while raising two incredible children. Sholeh shares her insights about her career, her life, love and parenting.
1.How do you manage a household at the same time as being the executive producer for Entertainment Tonight Canada?
I live and die by my Outlook Calendar – ET Canada is a daily show so it’s non-stop, I am a single mother of 2 wonderful busy kids and I have an Arbonne business so making sure I know where I need to be and when is crucial for me to be successful. I don’t have any family here, as I’m originally from Calgary, but I do have a ‘village’ made up of my boyfriend, neighbours and coworkers that I can lean on and get support from when needed. So grateful for them! Plus, I take advantage of services like online grocery shopping to save me time.
I’ve also learned that I need to make time for me every day so I don’t get totally overwhelmed. I get up extra early to meditate, do my affirmations and ideally some form of exercise so that I feel ready to face the day!
2.What do you love most about your job?
I came to ET Canada thinking I would be here for at most a year, it’s been over 11 because I liked the people I was working with and I liked the culture. I still do. I also love that every day is different. It’s why I got into TV – so that I could learn something or meet someone new daily. Now, as the EP, I get to think strategically about where we will take the show next and how best to get there which I get really excited about as well.
3.What is the best part about having children?
Seeing the world through their eyes! Each age and stage is so different. Half the time I’m having flashbacks to when I was their age and the other half of the time I’m in awe of how they move through all the new stuff that’s out there. It’s exhausting and exhilarating all at once!
Oh and of course the cuddles and the hugs. I know they won’t last forever (my kids are 8 and 4) so I’m enjoying them for as long as I can!
4. How do you balance being a career woman and a mom?
I have a hard time with the word ‘Balance’ because I’m not sure that I do balance it and I’m not sure it’s even possible! I mostly just juggle the best that I can. I also ask for help when I need it – which took me a LONG time to get comfortable with but my divorce forced me to so I’ll forever be grateful for that life lesson. I don’t have to do it all and we women need to stop trying to.
5. Is television as glamorous as everyone thinks?
There are some aspects to it that are pretty great and glam but most of it is smoke and mirrors. My favourite meeting is getting to look at Cheryl and Sangita’s wardrobe for the show that week. Production is often a ‘hurry up and wait’ game. I’ve spent many many hours just waiting for red carpets to start, people to arrive and interviews to happen but I wouldn’t change that for anything (well except maybe when I’m in sub-zero temperatures)!
6. Who is the most inspiring woman you have ever met?
My mother. She stands up for people who don’t have a voice and challenges those who target others simply because they are different. She taught me from an early age to love myself, know my worth and understand that I have a responsibility to speak up as well – even if it the ‘cool’ thing to do. She makes sure people know that they matter and has never forgotten what it is like to be young. She’s also a successful businesswoman who worked full time, raised me (alone for years) and finished her Bachelor’s degree at our kitchen table while I coloured next to her. She showed me that if you worked hard and you stayed focussed you could do anything you wanted.
7. What is the most important lesson you want to teach your children?
Don’t be afraid to fail. That’s how we grow. It means that you tried and so many people don’t even do that. Every night we do ‘Bloom, Thorn and Blossom’ so that we can talk about the Best thing that happened in our day (Bloom), What we failed at or found the most challenging that day (Thorn) and what we are excited about tomorrow (Blossom). I learn so much about their days, share my own experiences, get to celebrate the wins and learn from the fails.
8. What is your biggest success?
Surviving a pretty dramatic and traumatic divorce without it negatively affecting my kids. They are loving, caring and social kids who see two parents co-parenting together and putting them first despite everything.
9. What is your proudest failure?
I was with my ex-husband for 15 years but our marriage failed. I’m not proud that it did but I am proud with how I handled it. It was the single hardest thing for me to face and to move forward from. I was deeply hurt, ashamed and devastated. I had no clue how to manoeuvre through so many emotions but I did. I believe I’m so much stronger and will be forever grateful for what has come into my life because of it.
10. What advice do you want to share with working moms?
Ask for help and take people up on it when they offer to help you. We can’t and shouldn’t try to do all of the things, all of the time because it’s exhausting and not sustainable. Give yourself a break!